Sunday, April 13, 2014

Please take the time to read these two posts today.

The following two posts were written by a woman working in Uganda (Abide Family Center-check it out!).  Though they are written from the perspective of Uganda, they could have been written for DRC.  I felt like the words could have been my own (and I think if you have read my blog over the years, all of this will sound familiar as it relates to DRC).  Please read with an open heart and mind.  I have seen the same things they are warning about in DRC and most people that have been in the field in DRC have seen the same things. 

Post One:  Shattered Families (Below is a small excerpt; please go read the entire post, it is very important.)

We’re the ones who have watched grandmothers sob when told their child is now in America.
We’re the one who have seen falsified documents with our own eyes. Documents that claim this parent is dead when they’re standing right in front of us.
We’re the ones who have sat with adoptive parents and begged, begged them, to reconsider. Because those children? Their mom is right outside and she says she wants her babies back.
We’re the ones who have seen an aunt pick her niece up from the orphanage after she was kidnapped and the orphanage was told she was a cut and dry abandonment case. The little girl was on the list to be adopted, and now she’s home with the aunt who searched for months to find her.
We’re the ones who have seen fathers cry with joy when reunited with their children who got lost in the system. Children who were already matched with an American family.
We’re the ones who have sat across from a mother who says, “I would have kept my baby if someone, anyone, had offered to help me keep her. I was just too poor”
We’ve seen children stolen and birth families coerced and money exchange hands and false documents written up. We’ve seen it with our own eyes. 
More here.  

Post Two:  I Propose (Below is a small excerpt; please go read the entire post, it is well worth your time).  More here.  

7. Stop letting poverty be a good enough reason for international adoption. I can’t tell you how many times i’ve heard people justify their international adoptions with “but the mom was just really poor”. Did you ever think to ask whether the mom was ever offered any assistance to keep her children? It’s not an ethical adoption if the birth family was never given another option. Let your kids starve or relinquish your rights? That’s not an option. Let’s support birth families who love their kids so they can keep their children instead of giving them up.More here

I'll leave with this quote from the same posts: 
"We owe it to the kids and the shattered families to speak out. To stop only telling certain stories, the stories we like hearing. We owe it to them to dispel this myth that adoption corruption is really rare so we should just stop talking about it [because, I so wish it wasn't true, but it is far from rare].
To be responsible and honest in our attempts to care for the children in our world we have to fight the hard fight of shifting through the layers of corruption and deceit to find the truth. It’s hard and it’s messy and it’s not very fun…. but these children and these families? They’re worth it."


Megan said...

Thanks for sharing Holly :) I actually wrote these posts after reading some of the comments directed at you after your letter to Both Ends Burning. It was just kind of my last straw with people refusing to listen to the stories after stories we're all shouting as loud as we can about corruption. Stay strong and keep speaking truth!

scooping it up said...

I am grateful for Megan and you for your voices. All of this is the same for Ethiopia as well. Both Ends Burning is shameful.